What Are Your Dreams?

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis
“A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” – John Barrymore
As John Barrymore suggested, let’s not let regrets take the place of our dreams!
What are your dreams? Do you remember most of the big dreams you had about your life? How many of these dreams came true? What prevented them from happening?
Here’s a simple, but powerful, exercise to help you remember, and perhaps, rekindle some of your dreams and plans. If you have a note pad, planning book or digital planner or organizer (we will discuss all of these another day), please jot down your biggest dreams and interests; What did you love to do? and/or What were your career or job aspirations at each of the following stages of your life?
Dreams and Loves List
We will call this our Dreams and Loves List! Try your best to come up with at least one for each stage of your life:
When you were in pre and primary school? (Don’t judge these, just write them down)
When you were in middle school?
When you were in high school or high school age?
When you were in your 20s?
When you were in your 30s?
When you were in your 40s?
What are they now?
If there were any stages in your life which you don’t currently remember, that’s OK. However, take a look at your list again in a day or two, and a few more might come to mind.
Often we get caught up with all our adult challenges, stresses and immediate goals and priorities, or we have health setbacks, relationship transitions and losses, perceived failures and other curves, bumps and potholes in the road of life, and many of our hopes and dreams are lost or dropped.
We’ll come back to our Dreams and Loves List in upcoming posts to suggest easy ways to refine this list and turn it into a very useful guide in mapping your journey to and through Elderhood and reviving your most inspiring dreams.
To live a fulfilled and satisfying life you need to ‘march to the beat of your own drum’ not somebody else’s, but to do that, you need to know what life music you want to play.
Did you jot down your biggest dreams, what you use to love to do and/or your career or job aspirations at each of the major stages of your life? If you haven’t yet, now is a good time. Or check your old notes if you have done a similar exercise in the past. This exercise will likely stir up some of your simmering or forgotten aspirations and help you continue or start manifesting them in your life.
By the way, of course, you are not expected to disclose your results from this exercise or any other insights you gain from the exercises we suggest here, unless you have a mentor or partner you want share them with.
Aristotle pointed out, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
Below are a set of questions similar to those found in many Wheel of Life exercises. The point of the questions and responses is to help you take a well-balanced look at your life and see if there are any areas you want to improve. Major areas of life we focus on here include: health and fitness; intimate relationship; social life; energy and enthusiasm; productivity; finances; extended family and general satisfaction with life.
The concept of a wheel comes in when you place each of these categories as spokes in a circle. By answering the questions below and ranking them from 1 to 4, with 1 the shortest rating and 4 the longest, you determine the length of each spoke and, therefore, how balanced and resilient your life is.
Answer each of the above questions with a rating from 1 to 4 based on the following scale: 1. Needs improvement; 2. Adequate; 3. Doing well; 4.Doing great!
By the way, you will receive, or may have already received, a Wheel of Life Guide by email from us as a gift for registering with EldersThrive. The guide includes these questions and a diagram of the Wheel of Life, so you can develop your own Wheel of Life and also save it for future reference.
Wheel of Life Questions

  1. How is your overall health and the general state of your physical body?
  2. How stable and happy is your intimate relationship? (If you are not currently in an intimate relationship, please rate your most recent intimate relationship.)
  3. How do your rate your social life and support groups (church, clubs, etc.)
  4. How much energy and enthusiasm do you have most days?
  5. Do you get a lot of things done each day that you intended to?
  6. How comfortable are you with your current and future financial situation?
  7. How close is your relationship with your extended family?
  8. How satisfied & fulfilled with your life are you?
    What are some of the goals or dreams you still want to achieve? What insights about your life did you gain from answering the Wheel of Life questions?
    Please share your comments, questions and suggestions in our Caring Connections forum under the Mind category, about what you discovered from doing these exercises. By doing so, you can help encourage of Thrivers to start or revive pursuing their dreams and goals.
    You can also tag your comments ‘Goals’, ‘Dreams’, ‘Wheel of Life’
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